When Positivity Becomes an Excuse
There’s nothing wrong with finding the good in things.
In fact, that’s what strong people do—they look for opportunities to grow, improve, and move forward.
But there are those who do the opposite.
Instead of using positivity to fuel action, they use it as an excuse to stay the same.
They avoid challenges.
They reject personal responsibility.
They glorify bad habits under the guise of “acceptance.”
And when they see others striving for discipline and self-improvement, they lash out—because deep down, they know their excuses don’t hold up.
We now live in a world where excuses are not only tolerated but celebrated. And nowhere is this more obvious than in modern body positivity culture.
True Body Positivity vs. Justifying Poor Choices
Let’s get one thing straight:
If you were born a certain height, be proud of it.
If you have unique features, own them with confidence.
If you have scars or differences that tell your story, embrace them.
That’s real body positivity.
But here’s where the movement went wrong:
Being overweight and unhealthy is not something to celebrate.
Allowing your body to deteriorate due to laziness is not self-love.
Pretending obesity is harmless is not “acceptance”—it’s dangerous.
There is a huge difference between self-acceptance and self-deception.
And encouraging people to normalize and glorify being overweight is damaging, dishonest, and irresponsible.
Being Overweight Is Not Just a Personal Issue
People love to argue, “It’s my body, my choice.”
And to an extent, they’re right. But the reality is, being overweight affects more than just you.
It affects your family – Your children learn habits from you. If you neglect your health, so will they.
It affects your community – Obesity-related diseases drain healthcare systems and impact resources.
It affects society as a whole – A weak population makes for a weak nation.
People don’t want to hear this.
Because accepting responsibility means accepting that they have to change.
But the truth doesn’t care about feelings.
Reasons vs. Excuses
Now, before anyone jumps to conclusions:
Yes, there are medical conditions that contribute to weight gain. But the vast majority of people who claim this as an excuse are not in that category.
Thyroid issues? Exercise helps.
Depression? Exercise helps.
Metabolic disorders? Exercise helps.
In almost every case, movement, discipline, and better nutrition improve the situation.
The truth is, most people don’t have a reason—they have an excuse.
And excuses keep people trapped in mediocrity.
Life Is About Ownership
Your body is not set in stone.
You are not a victim of your circumstances.
Every choice you make—what you eat, how you move, what you prioritize—shapes your future self.
You can either:
Continue making excuses and stay exactly where you are.
Take ownership, put in the work, and build the best version of yourself.
The choice is yours.
But whatever you do, don’t lie to yourself by calling it “body positivity” when it’s really just avoiding the hard work.
Are You Ready to Take Control?
If you’re tired of feeling stuck, if you know you need accountability, structure, and discipline to change your body and mindset, I can help.
Through my coaching, you’ll learn how to:
Build a mindset of discipline and self-respect.
Develop fitness habits that make you stronger for life.
Lead by example—so your family follows your strength, not your excuses.
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